Chapt 5 – Healing from Within : Writing down your feelings.
Halo, kali ini aku akan retype salah satu bab pada buku berjudul “thank you for being such a pain” oleh Mark I Rosen. Dan akan aku retype dengan bahasa Inggris karena bukan dari buku terjemahan bahasa Indonesia seperti postingan terdahulu dari Dale Carnegie yang berjudul “Overcoming worry and stress” (link aktif) Hm, oke langsung saja aku mulai mengetik. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- The writer writes in order to teach himself, to understand himself, to satisfy himself. – Alfred Kazin. To write is to make concrete what is uncertain, abstract and tentative. Feelings, impressions, and thoughts swirl around inside us as we encounter difficult people. Writing takes the swirling and makes it into visible letters and words that have meaning and focus. By writing about difficult people, we take what’s inside and fling it outside to behold and ponder. Our feelings, painful and unwanted, flow invisibly through our hands and fingers. They often are so eager to tell a story that they move with fury and purpose. Writing heals. It both expresses feeling and fosters self-understanding. Writing is an outlet , a means of purging, a way to privately and safely damn those who make our lives so terribly difficult. Writing has saved me many time from making nasty phone calls. It has kept me from saying the awful things that I wanted to say in the moment, barbed words that would have lingered in the heart of the listener like fishhooks. Instead of calling , instead of talking, I wrote it all down. I got it out. I screamed on paper, pounded my keyboard, talked to the screen, stayed uplate. Exhausted, I finally went to bed and dreamed more acrimony. Some of the things I’ve written to the people who have hurt me have taken weeks to put down in word because it took that long until the feelings subsided. But if I hadn’t written my feelings out, I might have been poisoned by the toxicity of my own emotions for many months. There are two ways to view writing in the context of a difficult relationship. You can write to get your feelings out, to understand your difficulties, and to feel better. Or you can write to communicate with the other person. It is crucial to recognize that you cannot do both with the same piece of writing. If you write to heal, the writing must be for your eyes only. It can be a serious mistake to share a letter written for yourself with a difficult person. The relationship could be irreparably damaged. Several writing exercises to help with your intense feelings and to acquire insight into your difficulties can be found in the explorations section of this chapter. Writing is a potent way to heal intense feelings and to acquire a greater understanding of the difficulties. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tujuanku retype salah satu bab buku ini adalah untuk sharing, siapa tahu bermanfaat . Jadi, enggak berlaku tuh niat amat ngetik ulang terus dipublish di blog? Buang jauh-jauh pikiran seperti itu. Kembali pada tujuan awal yakni sharing. Dalam satu buku ini ada 2 Part, 7 Chapter dan kurang lebih 100 bab. Gila segitu banyaknya buat ngatasin orang sulit dan cara nyembuhinnya. Nah sekarang adalah rangkuman menurutku tentang tulisan di atas :
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